Dark-skinned women- of all races- are portrayed as ugly, dumb, miserable & as sexual objects.
And what are the implications?
Did you watch the above video? If you didn’t, go back and watch it, it’s important…
Black women are ugly, dumb and only good for sex. White women are beautiful, smart, and suitable mates. The closer you are to either end determines what you are. Those are the rules. I wouldn’t be surprised to hear this from Whites, not because I think they are racist, but because historically, groups always find ways to make other groups accept their dominance. But from Blacks?
Take another look. It’s not race-ism. It’s shade-ism. It’s the most widespread form of black-on-black crime.
This is not a Black thing. Oh, no. A lot of people understand. I have lived in Saudi Arabia, and Oman, and have spent significant time in Pakistan and Thailand. I have watched the television broadcast in these countries and also from India. So I can tell you that this commercial is very typical.
Here’s a list of Black celebrities who have (apparently) bleached their skins: Click Here
I remember reading “Autobiography of a Yogi” by Paramahamsa Yogananda, the very influential guru who brought yoga to the United States. He was from Bengal (modern day Bangladesh, but a part of British India at the time.) In his book, he gloated, even using quotation marks, at the facts that there were Indians (in Kashmir) who were as white as Europeans. Why didn’t he mention, nevermind with excitement, that there were (many more) Indians who were as Black as Africans?
Many Arabs are light-skinned, but some, like many Europeans, have skin that is pinkish, rather than very light brown, light-brown, blue, hazel or green eyes, and straight brown even blond hair rather than wavy or curly black hair. I have an Egyptian friend who said that a light-skinned Egyptian girl can expect to marry a lawyer or doctor even if she’s only finished high school.
I had another Egyptian friend who used to tell me- with a smile on his face- that there were Egyptians (of either Turkish or Greek origin) who looked just like Europeans. I’m proud to remember that he was just as glad to say that there were very dark-skinned people, too.
Another guy, a Jordanian colleague, bragged about how his children were born with white skin and golden hair, to the extent that Americans thought they were White. I’m rooting (no pun intended, Aussies & Brits) for my next child to be very dark. And I will brag about him or her with just as much genuine enthusiasm.
Brazilians swear they aren’t racist, but they had to pass laws, recently, establishing a quota of dark-skinned characters on television.
Therein lies the racism. White is considered pure, or normal. Anything other than white is considered impure and abnormal. Everybody was so happy when Obama won, because he became America’s first Black president. Everybody who calls Obama Black is racist. His mother was White. So there is just as much reason to call him America’s 43rd White president, but nobody does. Why? Think of 2 glasses of water. You leave one alone, but you put a drop, just one drop, of poison in the water. What do you call the first one? Water. What do you call the second one? Poison. It is only 1/1000 poison, but you identify it by that. You identify it by the polluting substance. That is why Obama has to be called Black instead of White. That is why people whose families have been in France for generations are called “a Frenchman of Tunisian descent”, or “a Frenchwoman of Senegalese descent”.
Now, here is a slideshow proving dark-skinned women are beautiful, but before you watch it, realize that that’s not the point. This whole blog’s missing the point: Women do not have to be beautiful. They can choose to be whomever or whatver they like. They are here to make the best of themselves, not as decorations.
We- men and women- too often look at the female world as a carousel, a gallery, where each passing woman is critiqued, measured and valued, based on her looks.
The true beauty of women- and men- is form the inside: their character and their actions.
Until now, the discussion has been about “shade-ism”, intra-racial racism and discrimination against dark-skinned women in the media. But let’s not forget that there is racism, too. The following examples will make an undeniable case for a “soft” genocide of non-whites, perpetuation of self-hatred and promotion of miscegenation (breeding blackness out) in the media. It will focus on American media, and you will be shocked. Let’s do a few case studies.
Jennifer Lopez, Puerto Rican-American Actress, Businesswoman, Dancer & Recording Artist
Anaconda (1997)- Movie director with white boyfriend
The Cell (2000)- Hint of romance with white man who saves her during an experiment
The Wedding Planner (2001)- White love interest
Angel Eyes (2001)- Policewoman with abusive father and estranged family who falls in love with White do-gooder
Maid in Manhattan (2002)- Poor hotel maid and single mother who falls in love with wealthy White hotel guest, then life improves
An Unfinished Life (2005)- Widower of White husband, who leaves abusive White boyfriend to stay with White father-in-law. Begins relationship with White policeman in town. Daughter fully European-looking and played by White actress.
Monster-in-Law (2005)- Temporary worker who gets engaged to White surgeon and has problems with White mother-in-law to be
Janet Jackson, African-American Recording Artist & Actress
White singer Justin Timberlake stalks and repeatedly humps her from behind, then after singing lyrics “I’m gonna have you naked by the end of this song”, tears open her shirt, revealing her breast to the world
Eva Mendes, Cuban-American Actress, Model, Singer & Homeware Designer
2 Fast 2 Furious (2003)- Undercover agent with White love interest
Cleaner (2007)- Widower of White husband, who had abortion after being impregnated from adulterous affair with White police officer
The Women (2008)- Perfume salesgirl in relationship with wealthy White financier
Last Night (2010)- Has adulterous relationship with married White colleague
Halle Berry, African-American (Bi-Racial) Actress
Swordfish (2001)- Thrown out of a trailer by White man by getting kicked in the backside; White love interest; displays breasts; lynched by White men and shot, while hanging, by White man
Monster’s Ball (2001)- Mother of morbidly obese son. Cheats on her imprisoned husband with one of his white prison guards (negress has relationship with master while husband is powerless, hmmm…), including extremely graphic sex scene, for which she became the first black woman to win an Oscar for black actress (?!). Of all the outstanding performances Berry and other Black women have put forth, what does this teach us?
2002 Academy Awards Ceremony- Berry presented the Best Actor, who forcibly kissed her on the mouth in front of the world, including her husband
To be fair, these actresses have all played other roles, with love interests and children of different races. But we can’t overlook the prevalence of the following images:
1) White Man’s Whore- a sexual object, a thing of pleasure, unsuitable for a real relationship. This is outright dehumanization. This is from the Darwinian eugenic idea that Black and brown people are sub-human. (“All men are created equal” in the American Constitution clearly didn’t apply to Africans- implying that they weren’t men, for example.) Even now, the implication is that a Black woman is less worthy of dignity, and less capable of it, than a White one. Therefore, you are subconsciously led to believe, she is less human. Ever wondered why you can see naked black women in National Geographic, but a naked white woman is considered pornography, and thus taboo? Another historical precedent for this is American laws and customs before and after slavery barring relationships between Black men and White women, but rape and relationships between White men and Black women were never regulated.
2) White Man’s Burden- In need of salvation from poverty and misery by a White man, no prospects within own community. Again, the implication is that of a sub-human or uncivilized savage who is in need of White civilization. Europeans have long used this to justify their exploitation of non-white peoples: “In exchange for their wealth, dignity and sexual availability, we give them, well, us. Yes, this is a favor, actually…”
This last one is a dramatization of actual projects to decrease non-White populations, and increase White populations. Yes, there have been efforts to “breed (rape) the black or brown out” for centuries. In Australia it was an government policy only last century (read this). Yes in your lifetime. And in this century “population control” programs- from forced or covert sterilization to forced abortions- overwhelmingly “favor” non-whites and/or dark-skinned people (read this). Which population are they trying to control?
Bottom line: I’m not against interracial marriage.
I’m not against White people.
I don’t resent light-skinned people.
Do you know why I do this?
Because my marriage is interracial.
Because my wife is as Aryan as any German.
Because one of my daughters is nearly white, and the other is brown.
Because I have my mother send me dark-skinned dolls from America all the way to Saudi Arabia, and my wife’s friends ask: “Why does she have dolls like that?” I do it exactly because I know they wouldn’t ask that if the doll had yellow hair and blue eyes.
Because the guard in my building was a Black Sudani. The family downstairs used to scare their daughter by saying “If you don’t stop, we’ll bring kaloo uncle, black uncle. You don’t want kaloo uncle to come, do you?” My daughter is friends with that little girl. Either she learns from them that something’s wrong with me, and herself, or they learn from us.
Because I don’t want my children, or any child, of any color, to think twice before picking up a brown crayon.
Because I want my children to feel proud that between their cousins, uncles, aunts and grandparents, there’s every shade from pink to ebony, or not to care at all.
I do it because I am proud that my sisters decided to stop burning their scalps and hair to make it something it wasn’t and start appreciating what it is. They stopped trying to look White, not because European is bad, but because African is just as good.
Stop looking to beauty for self-worth. Value the ‘who’, not the ‘what’. Be someone, not something.
If you don’t like the way you look, change it, from within. Your true beauty is inside.
Never hate your self. Never have to hate someone else to love your self.
Look for reasons to love your self, not in the mirror, but in your soul. If you can’t find any, make some.
Sometimes the best way to deal with an issue is to be able to laugh at it. Enjoy this last one (please excuse the title):
Am I More Than a Color?- “Unless…Colorism…is addressed… we cannot, as a people, progress” (Alice Walker)
NappySol- a little bit of Jazz, Hip-Hop & Natural Hair
Black History Month: The Future- “Whoever controls the images, controls your self-esteem, self-respect, and self-development.” (Dr. Leonard Jeffries)
The Feminization of Black Men is Soft Genocide in Action- (Emasculization + Effeminization – Education = Domination)
And among His (Allaah’s) Signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the variations in your languages and your colours: verily in that are Signs for those who know. (Qur-aan 30.22)
O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that they are better than them.
Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the they are better than them.
And do not find faults in others,
nor be sarcastic to each other,
nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames- evil is a bad name after faith-
and whoever does not turn, these it is that are the unjust. (Qur-aan 49.11)
O mankind! We created you from a single male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know one another.
Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. (Qur-aan 49.13)
“All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.” (Prophet Muhammad, Last Sermon, Ahmad, volume 5, page 411)
“Allaah has taken away from you the pride of the Period of Ignorance and its pride in forefathers. (A man is either) a pious believer or a miserable evildoer. You are the sons of Adam and Adam came from dust. Let men give up their pride in their people- for they are just coals from Hell- or they will become more insignificant before Allaah than the dung beetle that rolls up filth with its nose” (Prophet Muhammad in Abuu Daawuud, alAdab, page 111)